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It was a great show on male/female issues today (i.e. yesterday life).

I totally believe in the nature-given differences of males and females. I did not believe so until I experienced myself to be typically female in many ways when I was in my late twenties, and until I experienced my son to be typically male in many ways – and until I experienced myself as a mother.

Having said that, I’d like to mention that as a child I

• never played with baby dolls (though I had some)
• preferred to play with matchbox cars and Carrera racecourse
• loved to perform handicraft work
• climbed on trees uncountable times
• played cowboy or indian the whole day long in a wood close to my then-home with friends (boys and girls)
• had a Barbie-Doll but played mostly with “Big Jim” and “Big Jack” that were muscle-men with moving arms and untiringly played adventure stories like Big Jim being kidnapped in the jungle and Big Jack coming to free him and lots of enemies and fights and shootings … (Barbie herself was also a fighter..)
• hated knitting and crocheting and that stuff that we as girls had to learn in school while the boys were doing cool things like carving and building useful stuff out of wood and metal and so on …

I hated to wear skirts and never liked typical female clothes like pink dresses and so on because I felt I couldn’t identify with the typical female role model … I never dreamed about being a princess and finding the perfect prince and wedding in a castle … I wanted to get a ‘cowboy’ or an astronaut as a child …

As for my female characteristics as a child:

• I was shy and hated dodgeball that we had to play in school sports every single time
• I attended a ballet class for six years and liked it
• I was sewing clothes and liked it
• I did never beat up s.o. because I was much to shy and afraid to hurt myself and I hated the battles between boys in the schoolyard
• I loved to be chased by boys in the schoolyard and elsewhere

I feel so grateful to feminism that nobody forced me into a role model that would have literally violated me as a child.

On the other side I blame feminism of having deluded me in a very negative way concerning family, family values and the value of a full-time-mother, sex, partnership, and so on. Today I know that I was so wrong on many issues and I think I’d be much happier and have more peace if only I would have known before, when I was twenty. But nobody ever teached me and showed me and I think, if someone would have tried to teach me about all that I would have not believed in it.

Today, I know better. But being a 39 year old single mother of a 15 year old son, it’s too late to start all over again building a family with many children.